Gottman-Informed Pre-Assessment

The Relationship Wellness Check

Ten quick questions. Takes about 2 minutes. For each statement, choose the response that best describes your relationship.

Scale: 1 = Never · 2 = Sometimes · 3 = Often · 4 = Always

1. Emotional Connection (Love Maps)

We know what is currently happening in each other's lives, including stresses, goals, and important concerns.

NeverSometimesOftenAlways

2. Fondness & Admiration

We regularly express appreciation, affection, or gratitude toward one another.

NeverSometimesOftenAlways

3. Turning Toward

When one of us reaches for attention, comfort, or connection, the other usually responds positively.

NeverSometimesOftenAlways

4. Communication During Conflict

Even when we disagree, we usually communicate respectfully without attacking, criticizing, or shutting down.

NeverSometimesOftenAlways

5. Repair Attempts

After disagreements, we are able to calm down, apologize, reconnect, or repair the relationship.

NeverSometimesOftenAlways

6. Emotional Safety

I feel emotionally safe sharing my thoughts, feelings, and concerns with my partner.

NeverSometimesOftenAlways

7. Teamwork

We approach challenges as partners rather than feeling like we're on opposite sides.

NeverSometimesOftenAlways

8. Shared Vision

We have meaningful conversations about our future, values, dreams, and the life we want to build together.

NeverSometimesOftenAlways

9. Trust & Commitment

I trust my partner's intentions and believe we are committed to strengthening our relationship.

NeverSometimesOftenAlways

10. Relationship Satisfaction

Overall, I feel satisfied with the health and direction of our relationship.

NeverSometimesOftenAlways

Shalom

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